Most children are aware of gender and pronouns between 3-5 years of age
Misgendering is Harmful
Most cultures have a long tradition of using misgendering as a way to humiliate someone by indicating they’re performing gender incorrectly, and therefore are “less than” a “real man” or “real woman”
“Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me” is factually incorrect
Although your intentions may be good, your words can have a negative impact on others
10 things you are actually saying when you ignore someone’s gender pronouns:
I know you better than you know yourself.
I would rather hurt you repeatedly than change the way I speak about you.
Your sense of safety is not important to me.
Your identity isn’t real and shouldn’t be acknowledged.
I want to teach everyone around me to disrespect you.
Offending you is fine if it makes me feel more comfortable.
I can hear you talking, but I’m not really listening.
Being who you truly are is an inconvenience to me.
I would prefer it if you stopped being honest with me.
I am not an ally, a friend, or someone you can trust.
The Pronouns of Modern English
Some Pronouns That People Use
Avoid assuming anyone’s gender
Feel free to ask people when you meet them what pronouns they use
Feel free to include your pronouns when introducing yourself to people
Feel free to put your pronouns in your email signature, on nametags, on social media, on zoom, on your website, etc.
Pronouns are not a whim, phase, or “preferred” usage for cisgender people; Trans and nonbinary people deserve the same consideration
Practice “they/them” or other nonbinary/gender neutral pronouns
Advocate for the removal of unnecessarily gendered language
Advocate for organizational and medical record systems that encompass sex AND gender, or sex assigned at birth/gender assigned at birth and current gender if different, and current “use name” and pronouns if different from gender marker on legal ID